Dating can be a little complicated when you’re with someone who’s already a parent. There’s nothing wrong with being with a single father. But you should understand that your relationship may be a tad different from the usual.
If you really want to make it work, here are a few things to know when dating a man with kids.
You may not always be a priority
He’s a father. And this means his kids come first. In fact, you should be worried when this isn’t the case because you should be with someone that will make a good father. You have to understand when he cancels on you to attend to a child-related emergency.
There may be a baby mama to deal with
A single father means there’s a mom somewhere. And if she’s alive and is in the child’s life, you have to learn how to deal with this. You may love your man’s kid, but you should also be careful not to cross any boundaries that the child’s mom can take offense to. When dating a man with kids, be prepared to make some compromises and handle things maturely.
You should also remember to make room for the baby mama in your relationship. Try not to get tied up in knots if your partner communicates with her. As long as the conversation is child-related, it isn’t a cause for concern.
He may not be giddy about your pregnancy
What happens when you start having kids of your own? When a man is already a parent, he has very likely gone through the whole pregnancy/birth process. While you may be over-the-moon about your first time, he will probably not be as enthusiastic. As long as he’s happy about this baby you’re having together, don’t worry too much that he isn’t as nervous or giddy with excitement as you are.
When dating a man with kids, it’s okay if you get to a point when you can’t handle it. Simply walk away if it’s too much. And never give a father an ultimatum to choose between putting either you or the child first. It’s pretty cruel and you will come out losing. Either handle it with all its twists and turns or let go with your dignity.
Hey, before we run you off completely, here are some of the great benefits of dating a single father.